I know this feeling a little too well. When you’ve cleaned up the whole house and it’s spotless. Then you hear a big, loud *crash*. You roll your eyes and sigh, there goes all your hard work. You look around your house only to find your toddler surrounded by a whole box of cereal scattered at their feet and if you’re lucky (sarcasm intended), there will be some milk and a few toys mixed in there too.
At this point, I feel like screaming at the top of my lungs and pulling out all of my hair. I just stand there and think to myself, ‘It was hard enough to get everything cleaned the first time and now I have to do it all over again.’ Oh, the joys of having kids.
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If you are like me and feel more like a moody mama (you feel like everything irritates you) rather than a mellow mama, I have put together some tips to help you become a more mellow mama that have worked for me. Learn how to enjoy your life and stop being so worked up over every little thing!
1. Take a deep breath
Breathe it out and try to relax. Think about it. You do breathing exercises to help you with labor and giving birth, why? Because it helps to calm your body and make you feel relaxed. Well, the same thing goes for when you’re upset. You know that feeling when your heart starts to beat faster and you can feel your blood starting to boil? Instead of letting it escalate and get worse, take a moment or two and just breathe.
2. Go for a walk
Obviously, you can’t just leave your kids by themselves and we don’t want anyone getting arrested for child negligence. So strap them into the stroller or put on their walking shoes and get outside. Take a nice, long walk around your neighborhood or if you live near a park, then head there. If there’s a playground, even better so you can have a moment to yourself while your kids are playing. Since they will be busy and distracted.
3. Find a hobby or something you enjoy doing
Sewing, beading, coloring adult coloring books, or maybe reading (if that’s what you enjoy). I feel like when you do things for yourself and you satisfy your own needs, you’ll be a lot happier in all other aspects of your life as well.
4. Write! Don’t keep all your emotions bottled up inside you, before you explode
- Get a journal – and pour out all of your feelings into it. This will be your special place where you can write about anything and everything and no one else will see it unless you allow them to. If you have something personal going on in your life that you don’t feel comfortable talking to anyone about, a journal is the perfect place to do that.
- Start a blog – you don’t have to pay to start a blog. There are options for you to start a free blog but, just keep in mind that you won’t be able to monetize from it (make money). If you’re just looking for a place to share your feelings and maybe get some feedback about it, then this is a great option. Sometimes when you know that you aren’t the only one going through something, you’ll feel better about the situation just knowing that you aren’t alone.
5. Make some mommy friends that you have common interests with
Or just because you both have something in common, like being a mom. Life is easier and better when you’re not going through it alone. When you have someone (besides your other half and kids) to talk too about what’s going on in your life, or just someone to laugh with about something funny that happened the other day.
6. Leave the room
If you feel like your head is going to explode, then just turn around and leave the room. The bathroom or your bedroom might be a good place to go and hide for a few minutes to gather yourself and your emotions.
We all have difficult moments in our lives and sometimes we react in a way that we don’t want to. We aren’t trying to be hard on our kids or trying to hurt their feelings or make them feel bad. Yes, we are moms but, we are also human beings as well and we experience emotions too, both positive and negative. Everyone has their own way of dealing with stress, there is no right or wrong way. Unfortunately sometimes our emotions get the best of us. But, we have to remember to try and reprocess the negative energy into positive energy.
Look at your beautiful children and although they may be naughty and do things they aren’t supposed to do, would you rather put up with everything they do and appreciate them or not have them at all? I know for a fact that I would rather deal with my house being flipped upside on a daily basis rather than not having my kids at all.